Try the reveal.
For this first try, use one device while each person gets their own private turn. Write side one, hand it over, then write side two. The reveal stays closed until both are saved.
Shared question
What do you wish I understood before I answered?
Side oneSide twoReveal
Step 1
Write your side first.
No one sees the other answer yet. Say what you mean without being interrupted.
Same question. Separate truth. Shared understanding.
Nothing is wrong. The app is just waiting for both sides. Their answer unlocks when both of you are ready.