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Safety

Use UYB with care, consent, and clear boundaries.

UYB helps people write privately, read slowly, and understand each other without turning hard feelings into a public feed or a live argument.

Safety receipt

Use the app only when reflection is safe.

This receipt names the safest next move before anyone treats a journal like help it cannot provide.

DangerLeave UYB for urgent help.

If someone may be hurt, threatened, controlled, abused, or in crisis, use emergency, crisis, professional, or trusted-adult help now.

PressureDo not force the journal.

Stop if the moment feels secret, punitive, unsafe, unclear, or like someone is being pushed to confess.

PrivacyPrivate writing is not safety proof.

Do not paste answers, drafts, reveal text, invite links, names, or crisis details into feedback or public help.

real help firstno crisis monitoringno forced confessionprivate writing stays out

This safety receipt is product guidance only. It is not emergency support, crisis monitoring, therapy, legal advice, medical advice, diagnosis, abuse intervention, custody advice, or professional care.

Safety first

If safety is at risk, stop using UYB for this moment.

UYB can help with private reflection, but it cannot provide emergency help, live crisis support, abuse intervention, medical care, legal help, or safety monitoring.

Immediate dangerCall emergency services now.

If someone may be hurt right now, leave UYB and contact local emergency services.

Call 911 in the U.S.Outside the U.S., use your local emergency number.
Crisis supportCall, text, or chat 988.

Use the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline for live crisis support in the U.S.

Open 988 LifelineYou can call or text 988 in the U.S.
Kid or teenTell a trusted adult now.

If you feel scared, pressured, unsafe, or unsure, ask a safe grown-up for help outside the app.

Read kids safetyPrivate writing should not hide danger.

Use UYB when reflection is safe enough to pause. Use real-world help when someone may be in danger.

Core safety rules.

  • Private by default.No public feed, no public diary, and no random matching.
  • Consent matters.Use private invites with people you know, not as pressure or surveillance.
  • Reveals are not replies.Read first. Do not use the reveal as a place to argue in real time.
  • Pause when safety is at risk.Get help from a trusted person, emergency service, or professional support.
Important boundary

UYB is not emergency support.

If someone may hurt themselves, hurt someone else, is being abused, or is in immediate danger, stop using UYB for that moment and contact local emergency services or a trusted adult right away.

In the U.S., call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. If there is immediate danger, call 911.

Age and consent

UYB works best when the person invited understands the space, the reveal, and the right to pause.

KidsUse it with a trusted grown-up.

A kid should know why the journal exists, who will see the reveal, and when to ask for real help outside the app.

TeensYou still get a voice and a pause.

A teen should not be surprised into a journal, pressured to confess, or punished for needing time before answering.

ParentsBe clear before you invite.

Say what UYB is for, what it is not for, and that there is no hidden parent access or secret monitoring.

AdultsBoth people should know the goal.

Use UYB for one private reflection loop, not pressure, surveillance, legal disputes, crisis care, or proving who is right.

If the setup feels secret, forced, punitive, unsafe, or unclear, pause before using UYB.

For kids and teens.

  • You do not have to write a perfect answer.
  • You can say you need a break before answering.
  • Do not use UYB to hide danger from a safe adult.
  • If something feels scary or unsafe, tell a trusted adult outside the app.

For parents and adults.

  • Use UYB to understand, not to interrogate.
  • Do not punish someone for what they wrote honestly.
  • Let the other person pause when emotions are high.
  • Use professional support when a situation needs more than reflection.

When to pause.

  1. Someone feels pressured.Stop and reset the expectation.
  2. The reveal turns into a fight.Read it later when both people are calmer.
  3. The topic is urgent or unsafe.Use real-world support, not a journal screen.

Safety questions.

Can a child or teen use UYB?

UYB can support family reflection, but kids and teens should use it with appropriate adult guidance, consent, and clear expectations. It should never be used for secret monitoring.

What should we do if a journal brings up something serious?

Pause the journal and get real help from a trusted adult, professional, emergency service, or crisis resource. UYB is not emergency support or crisis monitoring.

Can someone read my draft before I save it?

No. Drafts are private to the person writing. Paired reveals open only after both people save their own answer.

Should UYB replace therapy or family counseling?

No. UYB is a private guided journaling product. It is not therapy, diagnosis, legal advice, medical advice, or professional care.

Help us make it safer.

After you try a reveal, tell us what felt clear, confusing, or calmer than texting. Do not include private journal answers.

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