Learn how to use UYB when feelings are real.
Short, practical guides for reading reveals, waiting with care, and helping kids, teens, parents, and partners feel heard.
Choose the guide for this moment.
Start with the situation in front of you. You can read one guide, take one step, and come back later.
Use this when the other person has not joined or answered yet.
Open guideWe have a revealRead before reactingUse this when both people saved and the reveal is open.
Open guideThis involves a kid or teenKeep honesty safeUse this when a younger person needs plain language and real-world safety boundaries.
Open guideThis is a relationship check-inLower the temperatureUse this when partners, parents, or close people need a quieter next step.
Open guideGuides can help you slow down. They are not therapy, crisis care, legal advice, medical advice, or a replacement for trusted real-world support.
Pick what is happening right now.
Choose the closest moment. UYB will point you to one guide and one safe next step, without asking for private journal words.
Read this if the invite is out, one side is written, or waiting is starting to feel like rejection.
Read waiting guideRevealBoth sides are open.Use this when a reveal is ready and you need to read it without turning it into an argument.
Read reveal guideYoungerA kid or teen needs plain words.Use this when a younger person needs permission to write one sentence, pause, or find a safe adult.
Read kid and teen guideParentYou want care, not control.Use this before a parent or caregiver turns the journal into a lecture, punishment, or hidden check.
Read parent guideHeatedThe room is too hot.Use this when a partner or close person needs a calmer check-in instead of another fast reply.
Read check-in guideUnsafeThis may be bigger than journaling.Use real-world help first for danger, coercion, self-harm, abuse, threats, or urgent safety needs.
Open safetyThe moment router changes navigation only. It does not create a journal, send an invite, store private writing, decide who is right, label anyone, or replace trusted real-world support.
How to read a reveal without rushing to respond
Read slowly, notice what you understand, then decide whether anything needs a real conversation.
Read guideParentsA parent guide to using UYB without turning it into a lecture
The goal is shared understanding. Your child should not feel trapped, watched, or punished for writing honestly.
Read guideKids and teensA kid and teen guide to feeling heard in UYB
You can write one honest sentence. You can pause. You can tell a safe adult if something feels unsafe.
Read guidePartnersA partner guide for quieter check-ins
Use UYB before the argument gets loud, not as proof that one person is right.
Read guideEveryoneWhat to do when the other person has not answered yet
Waiting is part of the consent model. You can write your side, share once, and let the other person choose when to join.
Read guideNeed product help instead?
Use the help page for invites, drafts, reveals, notifications, and account questions.